Imagine a game where there are no rules and you can do anything. That would be such a boring game, isn’t it? Life is no different from MMORPGs. You can choose your missions. Or simply enjoy side-quests.
The core is your skill tree.
You can unlock new skills and upgrade/master existing ones using your experiences. But experiences are limited as they cost time and energy. This is your real constraint which makes the skill tree unique to you.
Experience is food for the brain.
Your experiences and the consequences you’ve faced act as the foundation of your skill tree. All advice is out there. But it’s hard to internalize it until you have suffered. If you haven’t experienced it yourself, they are blanket words for you.
Without the relevant experience or suffering to back it up, you’re living in a house without a solid foundation. Answers from others are nothing more than stopgap measures; they’re of no value. When things get tough, and they eventually will, you’ll simply forget about that learning as you haven’t arrived at the answer by yourself. So don’t rush for answers. Take your time and arrive at them on your own.
What have you learnt the hard way?