The OEPS is an actionable framework to give feedback:
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I observed that you did X. Be specific and focus on the action rather than the person’s character. Ensure that it doesn’t seem like a personal attack. Select only one observation at a time.
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The effect on me was Y. Focus on how the action made you feel. Don’t talk about the effect on others.
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Pause. Let the individual respond, you stay silent. This is a bit difficult to do and might take some practice.
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I suggest that in the future, you do Z. Keep in mind that it should be concrete and actionable.
Some examples in practice:
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I observed that you are checking in on my progress every 10 minutes. It makes me feel like you don’t trust me to complete the project. Also, I can’t maintain my focus this way. [PAUSE]
In the future, I suggest we agree upon specific milestones and check-in points to ensure the project will be completed on time.
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I observed that you were late for our meeting today. It made me feel that you don’t value my time. [PAUSE]
In the future, I would recommend you plan on arriving early to meetings and call my mobile phone if a delay can’t be avoided.